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singles guys..... NO Singles....common phrase........but we wonder, why are so many single, goodlooking ( atleast their pics ) guys on here looking for couples ( when we were single we wanted others singles...date etc ) .....unless they are MARRIED. May-be in a way a threesome with a married guy is potentially safer in some regards ( no telling, disretion ) than a single guy, who might take a shine to the Mrs. Extra. So, singles....how many of you really are single...and couples...FMF fanatasies are out there and real, how best to SAFELY realize your fantasy ( with everyone leaving happy ) . comments please !!! |
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I have a feeling that so many guys are faking his marital status as "single" to have a just little bit more chance to meet, since many female profile said "NO married man". (Think about the reality, if the guy is over 40, and he has no family to support, and looking for sex online, that's tells me something is really wrong with him.) However, in most case, phrase "NO Married man" doesn't mean much, the female members whom I met so far always tells me there are always some exceptions. Also watch out those profile claiming they are M/F couple, but they really a just one guy. FMF (or even FFFM) is really nice, it gave me heavenly feeling sorounded by naked female on the bed, but... reality is, it is not easy to satisfy more than two female at the same time physically. Last time I did that, I was so tired physically, drained till last drop, saw yellow sky.
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4/16/2009 12:36 pm |
hmmm...speaking as a married woman who prefers married men (for the discretion and tact and safety)...I do not rule out the single men, but I find single men can bring more complications than I care to take on. Let me give 2 examples... The single man that enjoys the time together and the sex enough to become a "regular" is more likely to get attached. That is not fair to him, for it will never be more than a good friendship at best. At some point, you have to cut your losses. And at that point, you chance losing a friend. The single man that enjoys just the sex is a safer bet, emotionally. But physically, how many others are they enjoying the sex with? That tends to put me on guard a bit more...I am disease free, and plan to stay that way...Yes, condoms are a necessity, but I don't even want to take the chance that the condom that "player" is wearing might break! With married men, certainly those who are "cheating", you know they are discreet! You also know that they aren't typically having sex with every possibility because they simply do not have the time to manage a career, family and multiple mistresses. That makes them safer in most regards. The only "red flag" with the married men is the state of their marriage...I also don't want some married man thinking I am the way out of a miserable marriage! So now, your second question...how best to SAFELY realize your fantasy ( with everyone leaving happy ) In a couple, this means talking and communicating with each other, first and foremost. Are there things that would (in a 3sum) make your partner uncomfortable? Are there things that you only share with each other? What is and isn't "okay" to do? Once you have that knowledge, you have a good foundation for a successful fantasy realization. Then it is about finding others that share your fantasy, finding an attraction or a spark, and going from there. One thing that a great deal of married partners take for granted is that it is not just THEIR fantasy...there are others involved, and they too need to be consulted and respected. If you are involving another, make sure that he/she is comfortable, and you know what he/she would like to take from the experience as well. Is there any fantasy of his/hers that the two of YOU could help with? And NEVER FORGET that the people you invite to join are people as well...none of us like to be treated like a piece of meat, regardless of the atmosphere  Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance.
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4/16/2009 9:24 pm |
Wow. No wonder I'm not getting any replies. I'm over 40 and the kids are grown and I don't have any kind of relationship, so there must be something really wrong with me to quote "doit4joy". Long live the stereotype. Just looking for some fun like the rest of us on here. And safe too. I take care of my body and wouldn't expose it to an STD that's going to take away from my quality of life. To the female half of YOWnowcpl, very well written and in agreement with all. Realistic and considerate.
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I find some of the comments above very interesting. However, there is one other reason a single guy would like to be with a couple. I am single (divorced, actually). The reason I am divorced is that I really enjoy my independence and time alone. I enjoy getting together with couples precisely because there is no expectation of any attachment. I do love one on one sex with a single woman but I find the vast majority of women over 40 are really looking for a long term relationship (i.e. marriage or living together) and, since that is definitely not what I want, I just end up hurting them which I hate. It is really hard to find a woman over 40 who just wants NSA sex. With a couple, that is not a problem. Also, I find it very exciting to be with a couple where the woman wants to have 2 men doing her or where the man really enjoys seeing his woman being taken by another man. I always play safe, I sure don't want any STDs either. I also feel couples are safer in that respect since they usually are even more concerned about safe sex than single women. So, although I am single and love being with couples, I don't think there is "anything wrong with me". When I find a single woman who just wants NSA sex, I enjoy myself with them, but they are too few and far between.
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