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So glad I don't have premature ejaculation anymore!  

EbResonance 47M/49F
1 posts
7/19/2011 6:02 pm
So glad I don't have premature ejaculation anymore!


Guys never talk about this stuff. Premature ejaculation never seems to be discussed seriously anywhere - people just make jokes about being quick on the draw and other remarks implying that sufferers are somehow defective and lesser men than others. But it's a serious problem and it's seriously depressing!
Until certain pills came on the market (I dare not mention anything by name, because the idiots at LesbianPersonals will assume I'm selling it and delete my post!) no one mentioned erectile dysfunction, either. Once there was a drug for it, it came out in the open and it wasn't nearly as big of a deal anymore.

Since I was a until a couple of years ago (including about 10+ years of marriage), I had severe premature ejaculation. Most often I would cum within a few seconds of penetration. Lasting two whole minutes was a once every few years fluke occurrence. It meant that sex was lots of foreplay. It also meant a lot of times we just didn't bother.

I read some books and such - they all said it's in your head and you need to do these exercises and stuff. I tried, I failed. I got seriously depressed about it, thinking my sex life would forever suck and I would never be able to really satisfy my wife.
Then I read a simple encyclopedia article on-line about PE that mentioned that a certain class of antidepressant medications known as selective seratonin reuptake inhibitors aka SSRIs (there are lots of different ones and no I'm not selling them) had the "side-effect" of delaying ejaculation. They aren't approved as a treatment for PE so they can't be marketed that way. It's an "off-label use".

So I talked to my Dr. and got a prescription. He acted like it was the bravest thing in the world for me to discuss this problem with him! Overnight I was cured. I don't mean small incremental gains and I am not exaggerating even a little bit. I mean a complete cure. I could last as long as I wanted, and if I take too much, I can even have a hard time cumming! It saved our sex life! It helped my self-esteem and self-confidence. Without it we certainly wouldn't be able to swing.

So, if you suffer from PE, don't listen to those who say it's all in your head and you just need to practice stupid exercises. Go talk to your doctor and get help.

4playdates 56M/52F
259 posts
7/30/2011 10:26 am

Amen to that! There's absolutely nothing wrong with talking to your doctor about such things, and it can be a really brave thing to do, given how conservative and uppity some doctors can be.

SSRI's are for more than depression. When you think about the number of physical and mechanical processes that are controlled by minute amounts of brain chemicals, it's amazing we don't have more things wrong in our bodies. Or perhaps we do, and we just learn to live with them.

I, for one, am glad that you chose to pursue the course you did. Playing with you and your beautiful wife is something I enjoy for hours on end. And to know that you are also able to take pleasure from it, good old fashioned fucking pleasure, makes it that much better for everyone involved!

Kisses & licks,

~xoxo~
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