We're a long married couple looking for a new friend. We're just getting back into the "swing" of things after a few years away from playing. Unmarried males only or couples. We do travel to Phoenix every other month or so, so it is possible to meet there. Ideally, we'd like to find a friend, someone to connect with on a peral level, rather than random hook ups. At the moment, she's looking for someone to get a little rough. Pull her hair, scratch her back, bite her neck. She's looking to experience new things and needs someone to show her the ropes. Check out her kinks and let her know if you can appease her curiosity UPDATE we are also curious about swinging with other couples. We haven't before, but are looking to expand our experiences.

My Ideal Person I don't want to hook up with just a string of random guys. What we are looking for is someone that we can be friends with and whenever it works out for all of us, play together☺

We are looking for actual friends. Someone that we can enjoy both in and out of the bedroom. But we have to like you and you have to like us.

Generally we like to talk to the other man or couple and get a good feel for whether or the chemistry is there personally and sexually.

Then we will meet in person in a non-sexual way. Maybe dinner or going out or something, really, whatever works best.

We are very discreet and because there is another man involved, we have to make sure that we will all feel safe. Since we would be very vulnerable during sex, my husband has to feel confident that you are going to play by the rules and not try to do something we don't want. ( we had that situation in the past and it has made us very cautious).

If the personality and sexual chemistry is there.... we move on. Depending on how we all feel we might have sex or we will meet again a few times just to get a good feel for each other.

Nothing happens unless everyone involved is perfectly comfortable and on the same page. We have a lot of open communication and trust.

Our rules for playing are really simple.
First, we usually only play together. This is an extension of our sex life together, not me getting off alone.

Second is that condoms are a must. I'm still young enough to get pregnant, so we are very very careful. I have a problem with latex condoms, so we have polyurethane ones. They are just as safe and effective as latex condoms, just a little more expensive.

Our third rule is that if anyone is uncomfortable at any time, speak up, and we will either find a way to make everyone comfortable or part ways.

We once had a friend with benefits that in the middle of sex he decided that it was just a little too awkward. So we stopped having sex, put our clothes on, and went on to watch a movie. And we're still very good friends with him

We know what we want and my husband is very easy going. So you don't have to be afraid of him at all. He only bites when you ask him too😁.

He doesn't get jealous and he's not going to be pissed off at anything you do with me unless you try to force something I don't want.

We have played with others before. Everything from one night stand to friends with benefits. Be respectful, be honest, and it is going to go great☺!

What location do you fantasize about for a sexual encounter?:
A bed, A remote wilderness spot, No particular place

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Light Bondage, Threesomes, Mutual Masturbation, Food Play, Making Home "Movies", Participating in Erotic Photography, Handcuffs/Shackles, Blindfolds, Massage

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Physical attraction, Ability to be discreet, Open to ménage à trois and/or orgies, Willingness to freely discuss and try anything

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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